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When your partner is addicted to porn
When your partner is addicted to porn it can be just as devastating for you as it is them. Porn addiction should not be treated any different than any other addiction like drugs or alcohol.
If your partner is addicted to porn the first thing you need to do is lay all the cards out on the table. Communication is important and having a conversation is where everything should start. The thing you need to know as the partner is whether or not your partner wants to stop watching porn. If they are minimizing it or if they don’t think it’s a problem then it’s important to not engage until they are ready to come to terms with the situation.
For example, many people report that if their partner is addicted to porn they just deal with it because they are afraid that their partner will turn to another person. This generally is not the case.
People who are addicted to porn do not typically go out and seek other people – that would be a sex addiction, not porn addiction. Porn addicts really just want to be left alone so they can get their fix when they feel the need. The other thing not to do is engage in any sexual acts or offer to watch porn together. This would be enabling them, giving them further ammunition and reassurance that what they are doing is okay and it’s not.
Porn Addiction – Acknowledging the Problem
On the other hand, if your partner is acknowledging their problem and wants to change then you can help them by being supportive while they find a recovery plan that works for them.
Think of their addiction like an alcohol addiction. When they are ready to stop, they’ll be okay with putting internet blockers on porn and getting rid of their paraphernalia completely. Like an alcoholic who wants to quit they would pour the alcohol down the drain. While it’s not foolproof of course because they can just go to the store and buy more, it’s a start.
I would recommend that you encourage your partner to find a program because trying to quit porn without guidance is really, really hard.
Remember, it’s important to take care of yourself through this so you can be better at helping your partner when they are ready. Self-care is not selfish, it’s a necessity.
You’ll gain a lot of knowledge in this course about the physical, emotional, and social factors that influence porn addiction.
I hope you enjoyed this snippet – let us know what you think by sending us an email. We’re always interested to know your thoughts.
To your recovery,
Nick
(some content courtesy http://www.apa.org/monitor/2014/04/pornography.aspx)
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